There are guys that you will do everything for regardless how they treat you. At this point in my life I feel like almost all the guy friends I have can manipulate me in that way. I’m just a 20 year old girl that doesn’t know how someone is supposed to treat me. I think I have been walked over by guys for years. My guy friends will text me to hangout and then I will end up driving and paying for them. I don’t think I’m a sucker but from what I’m typing it sounds that way. I think this stems from my need to be liked. Some of my friends will come get me and take me out but it seems like it isn’t equal, I feel that most of the time I’m giving way more of myself. I don’t want special treatment I just want mutual respect. I recently went on a trip camping with 1 other girl and 3 guys. The entire trip I did everything for the guys, I cooked their meals, I washed the dishes, I got things for them. I don’t know they think that is a woman’s “job” but it isn’t. I care about these people so I would do almost anything for them and they take advantage of me.
I have a really good friend name Jose and we used to be super close. He would always ask me to hangout and I would ask him and we just had a really good time together, but now it seems like he only talks to me as last resort. We would text all day and talk about everything but now we only communicate over a group message. I don’t know if he had feelings for me or something goofy like that and then he decided that since I didn’t have anything for him that he shouldn’t be wasting his time. Now whenever we hangout just the 2 of us he has to be high. He can’t even focus on the conversation he is just laughing the entire time. I do really care for him but I don’t think he really respects me. I might be being dramatic but I feel like this.
The guys that I hangout with also think my time isn’t valuable and that I have time to wait around for them till they decide that they want to hang.
I hung with some guys this evening and I noticed that listen to what I say but don’t seem to comprehend it. One of friends kept asking me if i wanted to smoke with him and I was like no multiple times and he kept shoving it in my face. At that point I noticed that his on personal agenda was “more important” than my refusal.
Every friendship is give and take and sometimes more give than take you just have to find the people you are willing to give it all to and the ones that would give it all to you.